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So here I sit in front of the computer, head exploding with ideas for this blog. Yet, I can't write one... ya want to know why?? Because my son absconded to college with the computer I had been using and ALL OF MY PICTURES ARE ON IT! I truly believe a picture is worth a thousand words, so I am left somewhat speechless. I'm sure my husband would really like that to be the case....

Since I can't really share a recipe or home decor idea or really anything creative without my pictures let's just discuss life: kids, pets, marriage, parents, siblings.  Well I guess we can't really discuss either.... this is typically just a one way conversation. How about if I just share some things with you and if you are inclined to do so you comment with your thoughts and opinions?

Let's start with raising kids. I will be the first to admit that I adore my sons. I am thankful for them everyday and if there is ever a choice between them and ANYTHING else I will choose them. They come first along with my hubs. Recently I've seen a "deep quote" circulating on Facebook that basically says I'm not your friend I'm your parent... blah blah blah. I hate it. I really do.... first of all I'm not really a fan of quotes on Facebook. I mean if I'm looking for inspiration I can use my Google machine to find my own source. To me quotes belong more on Pinterest, but hey that's just my opinion. My problem with the quote is I wholeheartedly disagree. Why do you have to be one or the other? You can be both a parent and a friend. I am, and I wouldn't have it any other way. You can raise an awesome person without raising your fist or your voice. And yes I said "person". Sometimes I feel like parent's don't really see their children as people. That's just sad.

I believe that cultivating a relationship that is mutually respectful builds a strong foundation  that will stand the test of time. Not only that, but it teaches your children that they are worthy of respect. Yes, all children need guidance and boundaries but they don't need threats, belittling, and physical violence. And if you take the time to really get to know your kids you'll find just the right way to reach them when problems arise. A method that works with one child won't necessarily work with the other. Take the time to start a real conversation and listen to what they have to say, you may be surprised.

~XOXO jules